When God said that the woman would experience ‘stretching out’, it was not only metaphorical, as in the stretching of our limits, and the need to reach out, grasp and hold onto our husband, but a literal and painful physical stretching out.
This Hebrew word teshuwqah, stretching out after, means a strong craving, desire, longing that consumes one, and it is an accurate description of the force of love and desire between a man and a woman.
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In exchange for the pain you endure, as you struggle to give that baby a chance to breathe and live, comes a sense of pride and accomplishment, knowing that you have earned the right to be the mother of that child. Just like I have earned the right to be the mother of my children, I also fought and labored and endured great pain to win success in my marriage.
Now, work and marriage seem to go hand in hand. Now, there is painful toil, misunderstanding, hurt, confusion, and yet the woman’s desire shall be for her husband, who ultimately is the source of harsh, painful toil, a seemingly vicious cycle.
Many of the difficulties of marriage arise from different expectations, different abilities, different strengths, different desires, different motivations, and differences in our enjoyment of mutual endeavors.
The man who gave me our numbered tags and t-shirt, ‘If I signed my wife up for this ride, I’d be seeing a divorce attorney instead.” I smiled and made some polite reply, feeling sorry for this man who was married to such a wife.
Join me for a Tandem Tale, as I use a tandem bicycle as a metaphor to describe the reward and work of marriage. Oh, the romance of a bicycle built for two!