Purpose in your heart today to think only good thoughts toward your husband (honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, praise worthy). If your mind begins to dwell on evil thoughts, immediately exercise self-control and eliminate those thoughts, by replacing them with good thoughts.
Knowing the mind of Christ is the result of daily communion, listening, following the leading of the Spirit, and always checking our thoughts against the truth of the scriptures for what is good and evil. “What is truth?” Pilate asked Jesus, who replied. . . “For this reason I was born, and for this I came into the world, to testify to the TRUTH. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.” John 18:37
And what we perceive might not even be correct or true,. . . but we believe it to be true. . . and then it becomes reality to us.. . . and yet it is not true. . . which makes it a lie. Just because we believe something to be true doesn’t make it so. . . but it does create a certain reality for us. . .albeit wrong, detrimental, and dysfunctional.
Perception is what we think about something based on our feelings, emotions, past experiences, — our thoughts and senses. Women are really good at this — it’s intuitive — and we have the advantage (or the handicap:-) in this arena.
Just remember that in most arguments, there is some truth to both sides, so why not focus on what is true and real — your love for each other, your desire for intimacy, your commitment to resolving strife?
He perceives you that way. To him, it is truth. To solve this with an argument, you would have to prove him wrong. . . and what does that solve? You either have to prove that he is a liar or an idiot for feeling that way. Let’s try to solve this without having a loser. The only way to do that is to let him own his feelings. Okay. He feels that way. His feelings are real. Don’t argue.
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Fact is, we send out many signals, and sometimes they are interpreted wrong. . . and sometimes we don’t even know we are sending the signal. And if he told you how he felt, you would just argue and try to convince him how wrong he is. . . you could probably prove him wrong in a court of law!
Perception is how we relate to, or see, someone or something. Our husband relates to us depending on how he perceives us. We can change the way our husband perceives us — and thus how he relates to us!