Won Without Words
winning the marriage you desire through wisdom

Shari Popejoy


January 10, 2011

The Beauty of a Gentle and Quiet Spirit, part 5

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Mirror, mirror on the wall. . .

Beauty. . . something every woman desires for herself, and spends many hours pursuing, and yet the Apostle Peter gives us some interesting advice:

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” I Peter 3:3-4 NIV

I asked my husband today to explain to me at what times I am the most attractive and beautiful to him. After a moment’s consideration (and an assurance from me that it wasn’t a trick question), he explained that I am most attractive to him, and he finds me most beautiful when I am in a happy and carefree mood.

He explained (very carefully) that I’m not as attractive or appealing when I’m uptight, annoyed, agitated and frustrated (even if I have my make-up and hair just right, and am wearing a new outfit). In fact, there is a certain attitude that he’s seen (very infrequently I’m sure) in the past twenty-six plus years that tends to repel him as he looks for cover in his attempt to retreat. Hmm. . . who would have thought?

Well. . . Peter did. Wow, Peter knew a thing or two about marriage and women! He was right when he advised women to concentrate on the inner beauty and appealingly attractive qualities of a gentle and quiet spirit, i.e. happy, carefree, free from anxiety, peaceful, tranquil — very attractive qualities indeed.

Ladies, it’s not botox, or breast implants, or flawless skin, or expensive make-up or skin conditioners, or designer perfumes, or name-brand fashions. . . or in first century A.D. terms, braided hair or jewels . . . that make you beautiful.

It is the quality of inner beauty that permeates from within, like a fine fragrance that wafts appealingly to your husband, enticing him to you, that makes you irresistible!

“Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread abroad. Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits.” Song of Solomon 4:16 NIV

. . . You’re the fairest of them all (at least your husband thinks so — go and prove him right!)


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About the Author

Shari Popejoy
Shari Popejoy is the author of the book Won Without Words, and the blog Won Without Words, encouragement to wives. She writes the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for young people, and the blog Oh Joy!, (injoyinc.com/oh/) for busy moms. She is a frequent contributor to Christian print and online magazines, and writes from the quiet country of the Ozarks, where she lives with her husband, Marc, and their three children. You can find out all about her at sharipopejoy.com!


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