Thanks for joining us for the Saturday Grapevine — the time when we look honestly at ways that we can enhance intimacy in marriage — all those ways that two become one — in the despicably delicious dance of desire and defrauding, delight and disgust, dreams and despairs. Catch hold of this tendril today, and follow it to the source, to increase the abundance and virility of your grapevine. 🙂
“Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.” Song of Solomon 2:15 NIV
When paraphrasing the original Hebrew words, this verse says, Seize and take possession of the little insignificant foxes, the burrowers who will bind you (like a contract), and spoil and destroy the vineyard, at the point when the vineyard is most vulnerable with tender grapes, the blossoms, the buds that are fragrant and just opening.
This is a warning to be aware of the insignificant seemingly harmless culprits, that burrow and hide beneath the surface, but having gained access to your marriage, your vineyard, your intimacy, have power to bind and attack the tender and vulnerable gift, having the potential to destroy your marriage. For true intimacy (emotional, physical, relational, mental, spiritual, financial) is the basis for all success and failure in marriage. . . it is a key that unlocks the mystery of ‘two becoming one‘.
Watch out for those little foxes. Eradicate them from your vineyard before they have the chance to wreak havoc, and cause permanent damage.
Take hold of the little destroyers that bind and spoil the vineyard. Destroyers like complaints, lack of respect, avoidance, offense, selfishness, pride, irritation, criticism, are small things, but like a small burr under a saddle, or a small germ in a wound, have great potential to fester and build into a reaction of immense and destructive proportions.
You must be proactive in protecting your vineyard, the vineyard which represents all the benefits of your marriage, all the things that should be held sacred and intimate between you and your husband. Gifts such as respect, honor, trust, regard, tenderness, love, affection, admiration and purity.
My vineyard, which is mine, is before me. Song of Solomon 8:12
Yes, your vineyard belongs to you — but it also belongs to your husband (I Cor 7:4). Your vineyard is a metaphorical haven, an intimate and sacred place of communion where two opposites, are attracted to each other through the miracle of two becoming one — under the blossoms and tender grapes of the arbor of the vineyard. Your intimacy is a gift that you give to each other. You don’t possess it for your own use alone — how lonely and absurd — intimacy in marriage is a partner sport!
Don’t lock up your vineyard. Don’t sabotage the vines. Don’t hide the key to the wine cellar. Don’t hoard the best vintage. Don’t spoil the wine with improper handling, abuse, misuse. And above all, don’t let the little foxes take up residence in the vineyard.
Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines; for our vines have tender grapes. Song of Solomon 2:15 KJV
Picture the intimacy you share with your husband as a private and secluded vineyard, bowers of sheltering grapevines providing an arbor, a canopy of shady coolness, a lush green ceiling, that is heavy with tender grapes, breaking forth in vibrancy, releasing a shower of blossoms, raining down in fragrance like sweet kisses, an aroma of affectionate caresses, as you intoxicate each other with the delightful wine of love, in your private garden, your vineyard — yours alone to give to him in complete intimacy — nothing hidden, nothing held back, no secret sins of selfishness to create a barrier — no little foxes sneaking and burrowing — just a delectable, delicious dessert of desire! 🙂
Quick! Catch the little foxes early so you can enjoy the weekend together at the vineyard!