Remember when we talked about the phrase “Be with me.”
We compared the verb ‘be’ with the action the male craves in physical intimacy.
We compared the preposition ‘with’ as the word that comes before a noun to form a phrase, a preparation word, to describe the need for emotional intimacy desired by women.
To take this comparison a step further, if we use the word preposition to describe the female’s role, what word should we use for the male? Well, I have a proposition. How ’bout we change the first e of preposition to an o, — changing the word preposition to proposition?!
He just wants to make a proposition, a proposal. Nothing fancy. No big expectations.
How ’bout we spend the rest of our lives together?
And how does she react to his proposal?
She goes full gear into preposition mode. She books the hall, tries on a hundred dresses, orders a cake, that is more pricey than tasty, and forces him to listen to endless plans about swatches and selections!
But if not for her pre-position, her preparation – then today I would not have had the awwwwwww, and the sigh, and the tears as he surprised her by serenading her at the piano as he sang, “What A Difference You’ve Made In My Life,” tender tears dripping like diamonds onto her beautiful white gown.
(And the cake was awesome, too!)
I witnessed how a proposition, through preposition, became a beautiful beginning, as the girl-turned-woman, wed a man, and two-became-one as they began their life story together.
There’s just one letter difference between proposition and preposition, but what a world of differences they are about to discover! And so, women cry at weddings. . .
And yet. . .
He just wants to be with you!
And as much as you try to prepare for everything, does it ever seem that you’re not prepared to . . . just be with him?
Here’s a hint. When he’s got a proposition, instead of going into preposition/preparation mode, just consider saying yes.
When he asks you to dance, let him lead.
When he offers his hand, take it and follow him.
When he wants to be with. . . be with.
There is a great need in the man for him to be able to make a proposition, and it is incredibly exciting for him, when you respond to his lead and follow. . . with an I do! No preparation required.
It doesn’t have to always be about preposition! You don’t always have to prepare the way. It’s okay to be a helping verb — a helpmeet — a respondent to the proposition.
I have a proposition for you. Whatever he suggests next, whatever that happens to be, surprise him by saying “I do.” No strings attached, no expectations, just agreeable, cooperative “YES”.
Julie and Sam, may you always remember the power of “I do” and “I will”, it’s all it takes to sustain a marriage, through the grace and favor of God’s covenant keeping power.
And Marc, after twenty-seven years. . . I still do!