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Shari Popejoy




Husband

August 10, 2011
 

I Can’t Hear You; The Hissing Is Too Loud

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Sinful interactions between husbands and wives, (because of the hiss of the serpent), slithered into intimacy from the first glance at the forbidden fruit.

Here are some common husband/wife interactions that originated in hissing:

“The woman you put here with me — she gave me some fruit.” (Gen 3:12)

“Go sleep with my maidservant. . .”  (Genesis 16:2)

“Curse God and die. . .” (Job 2:9)

“I’ll get you the vineyard of Naboth.” (I Kings 21:7)

She took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. (Gen 3:6)

And now there is misunderstanding.

There is lost communication.

There is lost communion.

Talking doesn’t solve much because you are speaking different languages. The hiss of the serpent distorts the transmission. The only way to get the hiss out of the conversation is to express our thoughts in the language of love, because the serpent will coil and writhe and  twist the words every time.

You’ll say one thing. He hears another by way of the hiss — the telegrapher of deception, carrying lies through the airways, as a warped rapper of code that cannot be recalled or corrected.

Put aside the words.

Tell your husband what you are feeling and thinking — but do it without words.

He doesn’t understand your words.

He doesn’t understand your actions.

He only understands your heart and soul when you connect to him in pure love and devotion in a wordless expression of love.

And that’s one thing the serpent does not understand. He doesn’t hear the language of love. He cannot participate in that conversation. When love is in action, he must flee.

“The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.” Galatians 5:6

How do you do that when you are angry, afraid, vulnerable and hurt?

Empty yourself of the right to be angry, afraid, vulnerable and hurt. Lay them on the altar as a sacrifice. And then expressing love through faith, truthfully tell him without words of your love.

Dear sister, it is a battle that must be won without words!

Shari



About the Author

Shari Popejoy
Shari Popejoy is the author of the book Won Without Words, and the blog Won Without Words, encouragement to wives. She writes the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for young people, and the blog Oh Joy!, (injoyinc.com/oh/) for busy moms. She is a frequent contributor to Christian print and online magazines, and writes from the quiet country of the Ozarks, where she lives with her husband, Marc, and their three children. You can find out all about her at sharipopejoy.com!



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