Proverbs 31 For The Average Woman, Post #36 in the series where we study the qualities of an amazingly average woman, as listed in Proverbs 31.

Her candle goeth not out by night. Proverbs 31:18b

The original Hebrew words in this verse are:

niyr. . . kabah. . . layil

They mean:

lamp. . . extinguish. . . night/gloom

So, it’s not a literal candle. . . thank goodness.

Can you imagine if you had to keep your candle burning all night? That means no REM for you! You will not get the benefit of that luxurious Rapid-Eye-Movement sleep, where you enter dreamland, and your eyes begin to move rapidly back and forth, as your CPU (central processing unit) undergoes a security check, virus scan, defrag, and reboot!

If you have to keep your candle burning all night, that means that you are awake — all night, working, stressing, changing the candle, taking the stub of one, and lighting the next, making sure that it doesn’t go out, dropping off to sleep when your eyelids get too heavy, and waking with a start when you head drops and jerks you awake harshly, looking fearfully to make sure the candle has not gone out and plunged your world into darkness.

Ever live your life like that, on the edge of wakefulness, just beyond the bonds of dreamland, never allowed to sink peacefully into the slumber of stress-free somnolence?

Well, good news for you Girl! The original Hebrew says lamp, not candle. A lamp is filled with oil a couple times a day, and it’s good to go. You can fit that into your schedule! At least two times a day, fill your spirit with the oil of anointing, trim your wicks, and keep your lamp burning.

So, if you’re using this verse for the excuse as to why you’re still up at midnight, stop and get to bed!

By staying up too late tonight, you’re stealing from tomorrow.

Yes, there are times that we are in the midst of a project, and need to finish it. Yes, there are times when we want a quiet moment, when we want to escape the noise of children, and this seems like the only time. . . it’s not! They’re not awake at 4:30 a.m. . . . . 😀 Get to bed!

Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat – for he grants sleep to those he loves. Psalms 127:1-2

God designed your body for rest. He will enable you to accomplish the things that are really important, and He will help you to decide what can be laid aside, given up and sacrificed, in order to gain a better and more needful rest and peace and more productivity.

If you still think you have too much to do, and you can’t take time for a good night’s rest that God created your body to need, then take this tip from Ivy Lee. It’s so valuable that Charles Schwab paid him $25,000 for it! At the end of the day, write down the five or six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Then get to bed early (I added that part, and won’t charge you anything!), and tomorrow morning, start at number 1, and systematically work your way through the list as quickly as you can.

So go trim your lamp, and good night, sleep tight,


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