Do you like spinach? I’m not talking about fresh, crisp spinach, full of vitamins and iron. I’m talking about the algae looking green stuff that plops out of the can, looking like slime from the sewer. Blech! Who likes that stuff other than Popeye?
And yet I’m going to use this Saturday Grapevine (the time when we tend the vineyard of our marriage) to tell you how respect is like spinach! Wonder how we’ll make that segue? 😀
In the last verse of Ephesians 5 we read:
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
Love means love, but according to the Amplified Translation, respect means that the wife: reverences him, notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him, and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly. (Must have been written by a man!)
Why is respect as important to a man as love is to a woman? Well, God made him that way! And according to a book I’ve been reading this week by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, entitled Love & Respect, a failing marriage can be turned around if a wife will just begin to show her husband respect (or if the husband will begin to show his wife love — but this blog is read by women, hence the respect theme for this post). He teaches this at seminars, and has scores of letters from women who wrote to say it was true! It worked!
Why? Because a man desires respect, and he needs repect more than he needs food. Don’t believe me? Next time your husband comes home tired and hungry, tell him that you are sorry that dinner isn’t ready, but you got distracted thinking about all the ways you admired him, and wanted to make a list. Then read him the list, and see what’s for dinner!
You will be amazed at the power of your respect for him. It’s like spinach to Popeye, or the suit to Superman!
And what if your husband is undeserving of respect? Doesn’t matter. You are commanded to respect his position, just as surely as you are commanded to honor your mother and your father.
A man can be turned around and kept from the pit by a woman who shows him proper respect. It’s like yelling help to a fireman. He will respond. He will rise to the occasion. He will overcome temptation, and turn his back on immaturity, and work his fingers to the bone for your respect. Your whining, nagging, criticisms, condemnation — well that makes him want to run for the hills!
So, why don’t you just try a little experiment today? Show your husband some real respect. You don’t have to lie or be a hypocrite. You expect your children to honor and respect you even when you fail. Respect is an attitude, not a commodity that is bought or sold or traded on the stock exchange. Attire yourself with an attitude of respect, just like you put on your make-up or comb your hair, and it will make you more attractive to your husband than those new shoes you’re wearing!
Your respect is like a cool drink on a hot day, like a filling nutritious dinner after a long day at work, like a soothing medicated balm for tired and aching muscles, like spinach to Popeye! It’s like a miracle drug. It has miraculous, superhuman power! Try it! It’s delicious!
Go give your husband some superhuman strength today (and enjoy the love he showers you with in return)!