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December 21, 2011

List – Crossed Off

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Do you have a list of things that you’re working on crossing off before Christmas?

Me too!

But I just had a tremendous idea. . .

What if I crossed the list off?

No. I mean just cross off the entire list. One big check-mark.

Forget the successful little check marks beside each task that would prove that I’m perfectly organized and have accomplished my self-prescribed list of tasks.

What if I just crossed off the whole list, threw it away, refused to be controlled by my list?

What would that look like? Would I self-combust or would the world cease to exist?

I’m going to make a list of all the things that I would like to accomplish before I fill the house with guests on Friday evening. . . and then I’m just going to cross off the entire list.

Here is my list of things that I wanted to accomplish before  my family (who loves me anyway) comes to my house. . .

  • Reattach and grout that piece of tile that has come loose.
  • Repaint the trim around the kitchen window over the sink.
  • Tack up a few pieces of trim that we just never got around to after we moved in. . . five years ago. . . what’s the hurry?
  • Clean the basement — who is going down there anyway?
  • Clean the garage — again — who is going in there anyway?
  • Finish that cool decorating project I started in my master bathroom — again — who is going in there anyway?

So, that’s the list of everything that I’m not going to worry about getting finished before Friday. As soon as I check it off, I’ll be finished! Wow! I feel so accomplished! I think with a few strategically placed barricades I can keep everyone from noticing these minor imperfections. And if I’m really clever with the dessert table, they won’t even notice the grout. . . maybe utilize some mood lighting. –

Hey — that’s a great idea — if I use some candlelight  for ambiance,  I won’t even have to dust the ceiling fans!

. . . and if I send out a quick text to the family to stop and use the restroom at the convenience store before they get here, I won’t even have to clean the bathrooms. . . hmm. . . maybe they can also go through the McDonalds drive-through, and I can skip the whole meal thing. Bah humbug! :D

Seriously, if I throw out the list of items that I want to accomplish for my own sense of perfection, then that frees me to do the things that will really make my family feel welcome in my home. I can have time to get it company clean, and make some delicious treats, and get the mood music on, and adjust the lighting just so. . . and it is going to be a wonderful evening of fellowship and food!

And if I hadn’t just published it for the world to know, no one would ever suspect that I hadn’t cleaned the garage. . .

Are you with me? Got your list made? Ready to cross off the whole thing? Check. That was easy!

Merry CHRISTmas,


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About the Author

Shari Popejoy
Shari Popejoy is the author of the book Won Without Words, and the blog Won Without Words, encouragement to wives. She writes the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for young people, and the blog Oh Joy!, (injoyinc.com/oh/) for busy moms. She is a frequent contributor to Christian print and online magazines, and writes from the quiet country of the Ozarks, where she lives with her husband, Marc, and their three children. You can find out all about her at sharipopejoy.com!


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