But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23a NIV
Have you ever considered that the Fruit of the Spirit should be evident in the marital bed? That’s not sacrilegious. (What is sacrilegious is withholding the fruit of the Spirit from our husband –love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control — and wasting it at church — but that is probably another post!)
Fact is, God created physical intimacy for a purpose — and He said it was VERY GOOD. It’s natural. It’s scientific. It’s biological. It’s healthy. It’s fun! It’s good for you! Just like fruit!
We could solve a lot of problems in Christian marriages by telling Christian wives to just exhibit the Fruit of the Spirit in their sexuality — perhaps all our marriage problems could be solved with a metaphorical bowl of fruit!
- LOVE; that one is easy. All sexual intimacy should be the expression of our great love for our husband.
- JOY; we should celebrate and enJOY our mate. It should be FUN!
- PEACE; we should be comfortable with each other — there should be a mutual peace and pleasure in everything we enjoy together.
- PATIENCE; there will be times when we have to wait, or work through issues, seasons, occasional headaches, testosterone overload . . . babies. . .
- KINDNESS; be ye kind one to another!
- GOODNESS; share all good things with each other
- FAITHFULNESS; protect your intimacy, keep yourself only to him, be the one place he finds satisfaction and vice versa
- GENTLENESS; protect his ego as he protects your tenderness – gentleness is very erotic – stroke that ego!
- SELF CONTROL; exercise control over your emotions and your body. Sex begins in the mind; control your mind, and you will control your emotions, and you will control the bedroom – create what you fantasize. Teach him how to love you, and let him teach you how to love him.
Now, don’t get confused about the word used in the King James version for patience, which is translated longsuffering. Suffering should not be a component in the marital physical union. If there is pain, it is a sign that there is a problem; don’t ignore it. If you experience physical or emotional pain — it can probably be fixed. Seek help from a professional, so that joy and satisfaction are restored. And if there is a condition that can’t be fixed, then you must find other ways to physically and emotionally express your love to each other. The fun is in the finding — new ways to say I love you!
We should experience DECADES of marital bliss enjoying sexuality with our husband. Don’t naively think that by ignoring it, it will go away. . . something will go away. . . and it might not be as much fun as you thought it would be. God created women, and He knows that there is satisfaction, contentment and fulfillment for wives in emotional and physical intimacy with our husband.
So, go be a fruit. Get a little fruity. Go bananas!