Won Without Words
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Shari Popejoy


March 1, 2012

What Is Love?

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How did you know you were first in love with your husband?  What feelings did you have?  What did he do to make you feel in love?

I wonder if many young women are not in love with being in love, rather than being in love with that man. I kinda think I was in love with love. . . way back then.

I loved the way being in love felt.  I loved being adored.  I loved being wooed, wowed, and won.  I loved the way it felt to have a big, powerful man worship the ground I walked on.  Yep, that is powerful stuff.

But, what happens when a man stops making his woman feel that way?  Do we still love him when he’s broke or lost his job?  Do we still love him when he’s so busy providing for the family that we never see him, and he’s too tired to romance us?  Do we still love him when we find out that he’s not as perfect as we once thought, and that prince-charming has a few rust spots or chinks in his armor?

According to I Corinthians 13, love is:

  • patient
  • kind
  • does not envy
  • does not boast
  • is not proud
  • isn’t rude
  • is not self-seeking
  • is not easily angered
  • keeps no record of wrongs
  • does not delight in evil
  • but rejoices with the truth
  • it always protects
  • always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
  • never fails

Does that describe how we treat our husband?

Here is today’s challenge:

Analyze the way you love your husband.

It’s not about roses and candy, but about cherishing and choosing to respect and regard that man.

Do you really love him?

If you find, like I did, that my love for my husband didn’t quite measure up to the qualities listed in I Corinthians 13, don’t worry.  You can learn to love your husband. We have plenty of time — we’re only on Day 8!  Today, just be willing to consider that there is room for love to grow in your marriage, and begin to pray for a desire for your love for your husband to grow to new heights.

We’ll talk more about learning to love him more and better on another day!

Don’t you just love your steaming mug of morning warmth? Linger awhile with one of these extras!

  1. Read I Corinthians 13:4-8, and insert the words I and my husband. I suffer long. I am kind. I am not easily provoked with my husband. . .
  2. Journal I Corinthians 13:4-8 in a new way by inserting ways you can show love. I can be kind to my husband by ___. I can be not easily provoked with my husband by ____.
  3. Pray I Corinthians 13:4-8 over your marriage. Father, thank you that you help me to be patient and kind to my husband. Help me not to envy or boast. Remove all pride from my interactions with my husband. Help me not to be rude or self-seeking or easily angered. If I keep a record of my husband’s mistakes, help me to forgive and forget. Forgive me for delighting in evil, and help me to rejoice with the truth. Father, please help me to protect my husband’s reputation, trust his judgment, hope for good things, and persevere through rough times. Thank you that your love for me and my husband never fails, and help us to strive to be ever faithful to each other.

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About the Author

Shari Popejoy
Shari Popejoy is the author of the book Won Without Words, and the blog Won Without Words, encouragement to wives. She writes the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for young people, and the blog Oh Joy!, (injoyinc.com/oh/) for busy moms. She is a frequent contributor to Christian print and online magazines, and writes from the quiet country of the Ozarks, where she lives with her husband, Marc, and their three children. You can find out all about her at sharipopejoy.com!


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