You were taught to read, to drive, to apply make-up, but did you know that someone was supposed to teach you to love your husband?

Perhaps you learned this important skill by observing a perfectly loving relationship between your parents.  Perhaps not.

The Apostle Paul wrote to Titus:

“Teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers, or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.  Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands. . .” Titus 2:3-4

Loving our husband doesn’t come as naturally as loving our children – otherwise we wouldn’t need training.  It is hard work to love a husband, and it takes a long time to learn to do it properly.

It is hard to love a man. It is easy to love his children, but it can be very hard to love him — especially on his worst days, when he’s failed or fallen — or on your worst days — when you’ve failed or fallen. . .

And yet love conquers most of the challenges we’ll face in life, and we need a strong marriage to endure the losses of life — for you to love him through the difficult times, and for him to love you through your days of woes and weakness . . . as long as you both shall live.

It wasn’t easy for me to learn to love my husband, but many effectual, fervent prayers, time spent studying the word, and time on my knees listening to the Creator of my husband taught me a few things.  Over forty lessons were whispered into my soul, and I’ve been incorporating them into some of the tips I’ve sent you so far on this 100 day journey to a greater marriage.

The most important thing I learned along the way about love —  is today’s challenge:

“Love is not doing, but being. . .”

Today’s challenge is easy — just ponder that little statement today!

Got time to finish your cup of coffee with me?

  1. Read about Mary and Martha in Luke 10:39-42. Which sister was doing? Which sister was being?
  2. Do a little journal jotting and list three things you DO to show your love to your husband?
  3. Now, list three things you can BE to show your love to your husband?

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