We know what it’s supposed to be like. We remember those days of wonderful intimacy. A single person might say, “At least you’ve known companionship.” And the sages say things like,
“Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” -Alfred Lord Tennyson.
But that doesn’t mention the pain of loss at all. It seems less painful to have never loved at all, than to love and lose.
Love is pain. One day during prayer and meditation, I was praying that I might have more love for people, and a voice spoke into my spirit and whispered, “Are you ready for your heart to break?”
If you love people, your heart will break at times.
If your heart is breaking over love that is lost or waning, may I encourage you to read Isaiah 54? This chapter is a wonderful story of redemption and restoration. It speaks of a spiritual principle that is almost too awesome to understand.
As marriage is a picture to help us understand the love of Christ for the church, this chapter shows the love of God for those who are in despair.
Love is not supposed to hurt, but it does. Sometimes we think the only alternative to feeling pain is to close ourselves up and begin to atrophy emotionally. Don’t do that. Instead, turn to the one who created love, and who created your husband. Allow Him to be your source and solace and strength. There is a hope and a future for you.
You might not see a bright future for yourself, but He is already in the future and knows what lies ahead for you.
Rest in Him this day.
- As you read Isaiah 54, if there is a phrase that catches at your heart, hold it close, meditate on it, write it on the doorposts of your home, claim it in faith as the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1).
- Read Proverbs 3:5-6. On this day of rest, rest in Him, trust him.