Won Without Words
winning the marriage you desire through wisdom

Shari Popejoy


April 1, 2012

Lord’s Day Devotional; “Braveheart”

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On this Lord’s Day, I would like to encourage you to pray for your husband.

He has concerns and worries and fears that he’ll never tell you about.

As women, we like to process things by talking about them. . . your husband. . . not so much.  Sometimes when he’s quiet or distracted or grumpy, it is because he is worried or annoyed by someone or something that he can’t control, but is affected by nonetheless.

In former days, men could go invade a vile neighboring town, or go on a crusade to change the injustices they perceived, send the wife-beater or child abuser a message he wouldn’t forget, challenge the slanderer to a duel, confront the swindler, shoot the mountain lion lurking in the hills, and take care of the problem with a fist or a bullet.  They could fight the elements and the ground as they prepared a field, planted the seed, yoked the oxen, and harvested the crop.  By the sweat of their brow and the blood of their heart, they fought and conquered, or died trying.

Today, he has to fight a more civilized enemy of corrupt civil servants and lawmakers, unethical lawyers, repeat offenders, ungrateful or hateful employees or co-workers, greedy and oppressive tax agencies, ineffective bureaucracy . . .a village that doesn’t work.

Let me encourage you today to not take it personally if your husband is quiet and withdrawn.  It probably has nothing to do with you.   He probably couldn’t explain it in a way you would understand.  You can’t solve the problem, but you can be part of the solution.

How?  By being the one safe place he can flee to.  The one place that doesn’t judge, condemn, manipulate, tax, overburden, control. . . the arms that bring comfort, consolation, acceptance, loyalty, a brief respite from this bitter struggle, this toilsome labor during this strife-filled moment between birth and earth.

Yes, he has days when that’s what life seems.  It is up to you, his dear wife, to remind him that there are moments when all is well, when peace permeates like an aroma, when joy comes in the morning.

You be the safe haven, the valuable gift that he has full confidence in.

“A wife of noble character who can find?  She is worth far more than rubies.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”  Proverbs 31:10-12

Your challenge for today: Don’t take it personally when your husband is silent and aloof.  Pray for your husband today.

You are one flesh.  When he is weak, you be strong.  When he is in despair, you be the encourager.  When he is fighting temptation, you stand strong in the face of attack.  When he is assaulted by the evil in this world, you hold up the shield of faith, and defend your position, until he catches his breath and becomes conqueror again.

I’m praying for you as you pray for him,

About the Author

Shari Popejoy
Shari Popejoy is the author of the book Won Without Words, and the blog Won Without Words, encouragement to wives. She writes the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for young people, and the blog Oh Joy!, (injoyinc.com/oh/) for busy moms. She is a frequent contributor to Christian print and online magazines, and writes from the quiet country of the Ozarks, where she lives with her husband, Marc, and their three children. You can find out all about her at sharipopejoy.com!


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