Won Without Words
winning the marriage you desire through wisdom

Shari Popejoy


April 12, 2012

Follow Your Heart

Breakfast, lunch, and dinner. . .?

Don’t you just wish you could follow your heart every moment. . . take a deep breath and eat that whole chocolate cake?

Run away for the day and fly a kite?

Ignore the world and walk barefoot on the beach?

What if we just had a whim. . . and followed it. . . every moment. . . any time. . . ? What would our life be like?

Well, possibly mass chaos! Maybe like the anarchy that occurred at the eating of the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. . .

Because we don’t know enough about the future to ascertain good and evil without the wisdom and experience of God to guide us. Our taste buds tell us that chocolate cake would be good. . . but the glucose levels. . . the caloric intake. . . the lack of nutritional value. . . experience and wisdom tells us that a diet of chocolate cake is . . . evil in the end.

Our whims tell us that we deserve to be treated differently. . . we deserve to be happy. . . we deserve to be with someone who will appreciate us. . . that life is too short to be unhappy. . . and if he’s not making you happy — find someone who does.  But BEWARE! That thinking is as deceptive as  the forbidden fruit — or a diet of chocolate cake.

I can’t tell you what God wants you to do in your marriage.  I can’t give you advice, because I don’t know your heart, your husband, your future. . . but God does.  My knowledge of good and evil, based on experience, will be different than yours.  God even tells different things to different wives.  I can give tips that have worked for me, but I don’t know what God wants you to do.

The best advice I can give women is to humble themselves before God in prayer and seek guidance for their marriage.

Ask without wavering for God’s advice, and then do what He tells you — no matter how difficult.  You can follow your heart — if your heart is led by God’s wisdom. Don’t do anything that your heart condemns.

“This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence whenever our hearts condemn us.  For God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.  Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commands and do what pleases him.”  I John 3:19-22

We’ve heard the phrase, follow your heart as an excuse to do what makes us happy.  I say, follow your heart. . . to the heart of God, and find out what He says. . . that alone will bring fulfillment, peace, happiness and contentment.  God created you and your husband, and He alone knows what will bring health and contentment to you.

Even though we can all agree that a diet consisting solely of chocolate cake is not sublime in the end. . . we don’t have the wisdom or experience to know everything. . .about marriage and our lives. . .  or even about the plans and purposes that God has in mind for us and for our family — we must rely on the wisdom of God.  So, my best advice?

Follow your heart,

About the Author

Shari Popejoy
Shari Popejoy is the author of the book Won Without Words, and the blog Won Without Words, encouragement to wives. She writes the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for young people, and the blog Oh Joy!, (injoyinc.com/oh/) for busy moms. She is a frequent contributor to Christian print and online magazines, and writes from the quiet country of the Ozarks, where she lives with her husband, Marc, and their three children. You can find out all about her at sharipopejoy.com!


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