Today’s Marriage Tip: Don’t be afraid to follow. If you love, you will trust.

Ever close your eyes, fold your arms across your chest, and fall straight backward into nothingness?

It was a game my husband played with his sisters, and I watched as they fell backward, straight as a board, and giggled as he caught a handful of blind faith, as they begged him to do it again. They clamored for me to try, and so I closed my newlywed eyes, and fell backward, down, down, down, and when I didn’t feel his strong arms catch me (as soon as I thought he should), I caught myself (I’m good at that!), opened my eyes, and glared at him as I saw him kneeling there, with his hands at floor level, with an impish grin on his face.

It was all fun and games to him, knowing he was strong enough to catch my featherweight in his fingers, but it really ticked me off! I was embarrassed by the obvious admission that I didn’t really trust my husband, and I sulked as his sisters clamored, “Catch me,” as he upped their excitement by increasing the risk, catching them at floor level, seeming to say with each catch, “See, they trust me completely.”

Yes, well maybe he hadn’t forgotten to mail that important letter for them, or forgotten to call them when he was going to be late for dinner, or changed careers suddenly, or . . . (oh, sorry, got distracted for a minute there!) . . . or. . .well, any of the little ways I thought he’d let me down over the years.

Through the (almost:) twenty-eight years we’ve been together, I‘ve learned that I don’t necessarily have to trust my husband in every detail in order to be happily married, and to gladly follow him, because my husband is not really the guide along this journey of life anyway.

And you might not trust your husband to lead the way you want or expect, but you can trust God to bless your journey with your husband nonetheless. Some of the most beautiful scenery along this journey of life has been off the beaten path, along a trail that I would have never seen or attempted on my own. Following the leading of my husband, yielded a wonderful journey.

Is it possible your husband will take you on a dead-end journey? Yes. But, what if it ended at a glorious waterfall that the travelers on the wide, smooth, easy road couldn’t appreciate?

It is possible he’ll take the wrong road, and you’ll waste time and resources, but who knows where that trail will lead? You might find treasures that you didn’t expect!

I can’t find anywhere in the Bible where we are commanded to trust our husbands, even though we acknowledge that trust is an essential ingredient in a healthy marriage.

In fact the Bible says to trust God and submit to our husbands.

“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.” I Peter 3:5 KJV

If we follow God’s command and trust Him, He will bring us safely through even the Valley of the Shadow of Death, beside still waters, restoring our soul, providing a table of provision in the very presence of evil (Psalm 23).

In obedience to God’s commands, I love and submit to my husband, but my hope, trust and confidence is in the Lord. Here are some of my favorite verses on trust. Maybe you could use one to build your faith and confidence today:

  • Ruth 2:12
  • II Samuel 22:3
  • Job 13:15
  • Psalm 5:11, 7:1, 18:2, 20:7, 25:2, 26:1, 28:7, 34:8, 34:22, 36:7, 37:3, 40:1-4, 56:3
  • Proverbs 3:5
  • Isaiah 26:3, 57:13

Don’t be afraid to follow your husband. You might be amazed and astounded at the scenery as God leads you both along a pleasant path!