Today’s Marriage Tip:  Don’t allow the manner or mood of your husband to dictate your actions (or emotions!).

Newton taught us that to every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Just because our husband is in a bad mood, acting all WHATEVER, does not mean that we have to react in a negative manner, escalate the turmoil, and cause a hurricane of hostility.

Think of what happens when a warm front meets a cold front. Warm moist air is trying to push the cold dry air down, but it still manages to rise, beginning to dance a tango of swirling, swishing, air mass and water, sometimes forming a tornado or a hurricane.

Although scientists don’t really know why these air masses sometimes form tornadoes — and sometimes don’t — they just know that colliding air masses can produce ferocious storms — deadly powerful forces of nature from the same air that only moments before was a gentle breeze or a cool breath of fresh air.

Colliding energies, forceful actions and equally powerful reactions, can become a swirling, powerful, sucking vortex of the power of circular revolution, dragging you into a whirlpool of eddying unending emotional turmoil. Avoid the vortex!

Suffice it to say that when my husband’s hostile attitude meets my cold front. . . there is potential for some stormy weather! And I electrify the situation with my thunderous reaction, — or I can dissipate the volatile weather with a gentle demeanor.

So, when he’s out of sorts, or angry with his circumstances, or frustrated with his job, or feels like he can’t control all of the variables that affect him. . . let’s just react with patience and love. Let him know that we are a safe place for him to come. . . when he’s ready. Give him a smile, and at least be the one place that is soft and comforting and welcoming. Bring him good and not harm.

The wind goeth toward the south, and turneth about unto the north; it whirleth about continually, and the wind returneth again according to his circuits. All the rivers run into the sea; yet the sea is not full; unto the place from whence the rivers come, thither they return again. Eccl 1:6-7

Let the wind calmly continue its cycle. Don’t get in the path of a man-made tornado. The winds will blow and the waters will rise, but peace be still. . .

  1. Can you recall a time when your husband’s stormy weather met your cold front?
  2. Can you try a new tactic? Try being a calming, dissipating, force of a warm welcoming zephyr the next time a tropical storm is predicted! Be the gentle kiss of a breeze to your husband as you walk hand in hand — on the moonlit beach!