Husbands and wives are to please each other through touch, and through physical intimacy.
It is selfish to withhold something from your partner that you know he enjoys that only you can provide, (unless you have both agreed to some fervent prayer and fasting).
If we love each other, we should be willing to make whatever effort we can to please them and bring them satisfaction and pleasure through the stresses and difficulties and seasons of life, even when it is inconvenient or awkward.
Disappointed and defrauded intimacy is destructive in a marriage, whether it is physical, emotional, spiritual or relational. Defrauding is selfish and wrong, and diametrically opposed to what God designed for marriage. His plan was for husbands and wives to use physical touch, emotional connectedness, relational console, and spiritual counsel to bring healing, comfort, intimacy, and pleasure.
So, it doesn’t matter how many excuses are offered. It doesn’t matter how tired we are, or how busy the day has been. Sometime today we need to find time to connect physically with our husband.
Stop defrauding each other. As the NIV says, stop depriving each other.
So, here is our challenge for today. Read these verses to your husband, and seek forgiveness together for defrauding each other physically. And then minister healing touch to each other.
You must forgive your husband for defrauding you in the area of insufficient foot rubs, half-hearted back rubs, and failure to hold hands and hug you and snuggle more often.
If you’ve been withholding physical intimacy because you don’t feel emotionally connected to him, then teach him about what you need in order to feel close to him again.
To increase satisfaction in intimacy, help him help you feel emotionally connected to him–no matter how many foot rubs it takes!