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February 7, 2015

Mom Goals. Getting My List On!

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Written by: Cheryl Oberdieck
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“Five Kids, Two Dogs, and a Man of the Cloth,” by Cheryl Oberdieck


ast month I joined with a dozen other ladies in a facebook group to work on setting and achieving personal goals. At the beginning I had to list goals for myself in 10 different areas. Do you know how hard that is? I didn’t know I even had 10 different areas!

But if only I had been in this group years ago! I am learning to manage to-do lists that are focused and purposeful and goal achieving.

One thing that came up in the discussion is that my personal goals usually play second fiddle to my primary vocation – supporting the health and welfare of my family. Yet if I am totally neglecting those personal goals, ultimately that vocation suffers too.

For example, one of the goals is maintaining my physical fitness. My apologies in advance to my friends who have already heard me ad nauseum on this one. I am admittedly an endorphin junkie. But without regular exercise, I am ever-so-slightly short tempered with my hubby and kids. (Baby #4 just read and confirmed this with a “Gosh, that is so true, Mom!”)

Yesterday I spent at least an hour and a half on a full body workout, despite the fact, gasp, that I had a sick child at home. And I did so without mommy guilt accompanying me! Now I couldn’t have always gotten away like that when the children were small, but I also have some excellent home DVD workouts that I can do in 20 minutes.

Another personal goal is making very intentional time with the father of my children. I don’t think I need to go into too much detail except to say that the side benefits to the children are very tangible! (Ahem. Sometimes the side benefits are children.)

I realize that time, or lack thereof, is a huge factor for many moms, especially those with babies and small children — and even moreso if they are also working outside the home or running a home business on the side. Or trying to juggle all three!

It seems like I have more mom friends with little kids now than I had time to know when I was a young mom myself. (Truth be told, a few friendships result from being peers with the grandparents, but we won’t go there.)

Perhaps this day looks familiar:

Enter 4 year old Jonathan, 2 year old Katy (and Kayla on the way)

cassette tape katy 1

I am so glad cassette tapes are a thing of the past! (Katy, 10 months)

What a day!

Trying so hard to finish up the kitchen project with little fingers getting in the flour, little fingers opening boxes, little fingers rearranging newly organized shelves, little fingers carrying the footstool around and climbing up and jamming videos in the VCR upside down.

Little mouths asking for food and then not eating it, or spitting apple peels on the floor.

Little mouths demanding Winnie the Pooh cassette tapes be turned on again and again because somehow the pause button got hit.

Little mouths asking to get toys out and then dumping them all over the floor – marbles rolling all over the gameroom!

Little shrill voices whining.

Little people who feel the need to change their clothes every hour!!!

Little people who have to have matching socks with their outfits. Katy went through 3 pairs of socks today. After she changed into a Pooh outfit (and out of the pink outfit with hearts that she had to have on earlier) she decided that the yellow socks she had on didn’t look right with Pooh. She needed matching pink ones instead. So there are stray little sock balls all over the house and few socks still have their partners.

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Check out the socks on this little dishwasher! (Katy, age 2)

If you’ve read my earlier blogposts, you know that single socks are still my pet peeve, and an issue that probably won’t be solved this side of heaven…  (And if there are socks in heaven, I don’t want to know.)

Anyway, I don’t know if I would have had time to even utter the words “personal goal” much less write them down while I was flipping Winnie the Pooh tapes. If I did, the list would probably have only one word. “Sleep!”

But if I had to do it all again, I just might put my own name on my to-do list with a little more thoughtfulness. And I’m pretty sure my whole family would have been all the better for it!

About the Author

Cheryl Oberdieck
Lutheran pastor's wife and Army chaplain's wife (same man!) Homeschooling mom of three and occasional young adult consultant for two more. Homeschool group drama department interim co-chair, (cause “president” sounds too scary). Youth group leader, computer IT guy, church historian and honorary trustee. Wannabe gardener. Most importantly, a redeemed by the blood of Jesus, daughter of the King who spends an inordinate amount of time learning, and re-learning what it means to walk in God's grace!


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