Fact is, we send out many signals, and sometimes they are interpreted wrong. . . and sometimes we don’t even know we are sending the signal. And if he told you how he felt, you would just argue and try to convince him how wrong he is. . . you could probably prove him wrong in a court of law!
What is the #1 cause of divorce? Well, studies might claim that it is finances, or children with disabilities, or irreconcilable differences, or adultery, or abuse, or addiction, but I am convinced that all divorces are the result of one or two hard, stubborn hearts.
There is nothing as emotionally painful as the disintegration of a family. Can the severed spouses survive and move on? Of course. But, do not dismiss the potential pain, hurt, and loss that will be incurred when a marriage dissolves. Sometimes there is no choice. Sometimes one partner walks away, and there is nothing the other can do. May God bind up the brokenhearted and bring restoration and redemption to those family members.
The enemy is not your husband, or his faults, or his fallen human nature, but your common enemy is the one who can destroy the soul (Matthew 10:28), lead it in chains to a place of darkness, torment it with despair, loneliness and dismay, throw it in the dungeon of the castle that was meant to be filled with love, and light, and giggles and flowers.
May we all be as glass melted and refined and blown upon by the Spirit of God into a new creation. He makes all things new. He takes the shattering and blows the breath of new life into a new creation.