Your husband might not deserve your respect, but he is entitled to it. He might not have earned your respect, but he retains the position of authority nonetheless. If you want to obey God, then you will treat your husband with respect. He deserves at least the common civility that you would bestow on a stranger.
Your husband should have a secure trust in you, a trust that inspires a confidence and security within his heart that he will never truly lack as long as he has you, and he has no reason to fear of failure because in your eyes he will always be a success.