And what we perceive might not even be correct or true,. . . but we believe it to be true. . . and then it becomes reality to us.. . . and yet it is not true. . . which makes it a lie. Just because we believe something to be true doesn’t make it so. . . but it does create a certain reality for us. . .albeit wrong, detrimental, and dysfunctional.
Perception is what we think about something based on our feelings, emotions, past experiences, — our thoughts and senses. Women are really good at this — it’s intuitive — and we have the advantage (or the handicap:-) in this arena.
He perceives you that way. To him, it is truth. To solve this with an argument, you would have to prove him wrong. . . and what does that solve? You either have to prove that he is a liar or an idiot for feeling that way. Let’s try to solve this without having a loser. The only way to do that is to let him own his feelings. Okay. He feels that way. His feelings are real. Don’t argue.
Perception is how we relate to, or see, someone or something. Our husband relates to us depending on how he perceives us. We can change the way our husband perceives us — and thus how he relates to us!
Our perception of our circumstances will become our reality. Do you want to look at your circumstances through the filter of what God says is your future, your Promised Land? Or do you intend to look at it through the filter of your past failures, your own weakness, your own frailties?