So, if you’re having trouble respecting certain qualities in your husband, just give him the general respect you’d extend to a stranger. Build on that. Don’t make it so personal. Respect is something we award, a medal of honor that we extend to our fellow man in recognition of their role and position in our lives — not necessarily in relation to their worth or their achievements, but simply a common courtesy.
Ever heard the phrase, “Respect must be earned”? Well — it’s a false statement — at least in Biblical terms as it relates to husbands and wives! “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33 Hmmm. . . not a suggestion. Not a multiple choice option. Pretty much a command. Yep!
Your husband might not deserve your respect, but he is entitled to it. He might not have earned your respect, but he retains the position of authority nonetheless. If you want to obey God, then you will treat your husband with respect. He deserves at least the common civility that you would bestow on a stranger.
Consider this: every time we disrespect our husband, we are opening the door and inviting in the other woman. A man’s need for reverence and respect is so great, that he can give up his integrity, his vows and his marriage just to get a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
Your husband can become the man you need for him to be when you begin to treat him as though he already is the man you need for him to be. Today, sincerely tell your husband how much you admire him and respect him, and see how it affects him. Every time you disrespect your husband, you sin against God
It doesn’t matter what I look like, or how I dress, or how accomplished I am, or whether I even clean the house or have dinner on the table when he gets home.
If I greet him with love, tenderness, respect, and appreciation when he needs it, then I am the most attractive woman in the world, and he can’t stop thinking about me!
Your respect is like a cool drink on a hot day, like a filling nutritious dinner after a long day at work, like a soothing medicated balm for tired and aching muscles, like spinach to Popeye! It’s like a miracle drug. It has miraculous, superhuman power! Try it! It’s delicious!