[Wives]. . .“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  Instead it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”  I Peter 3:3-4

I’ve always wondered . . . what is a gentle and quiet spirit? Am I supposed to be meek and mild? Are wives, like children, to be seen and not heard? Is a wife supposed to be a doormat, and just repeat like a brainwashed simpleton, “Whatever you say, Dear.”? Do naturally timid and shy women have an advantage over their more boisterous (ahem), I mean vivacious sisters when it comes to being gentle and quiet? What exactly does a gentle and quiet spirit look like in our marriages?

Is a gentle and quiet spirit related to volume and demeanor or attitude and response? Is gentleness and quietness a personality trait or a behavior? If we all became prim and proper ladies of the Victorian era, would we fulfill this admonition that Peter made to the perceived lesser class citizens (a.k.a. wives), of the first century?

And how do we allow for the liberty and freedom that Christ teaches, the creative beauty of individual personality that God created and ordained, the equality of the sexes granted by the laws of the land, recognizing differences in natural temperament, while living within and influenced by current cultural norms (which, have you noticed, change from time to time)?


How do we encourage each woman to shine in the beauty in which she was created, whether as a gentle and quiet daisy, or a flamboyant and fabulous hibiscus?

Good question(s)!!

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