Tip #99:  Don’t allow the manner or mood of your husband to dictate your actions.

Newton taught us that to every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Just because your husband is in a bad mood, acting all WHATEVER, does not mean that you have to react in a negative manner, escalate the turmoil, and cause a hurricane of hostility.

Think of what happens when a warm front meets a cold front. Warm moist air is trying to push the cold dry air down, but it still manages to go up, then it begins to dance a tango of swirling, swishing, air mass and water, sometimes forming a tornado or a hurricane. . . although scientists don’t really know how they form. They just know that colliding air masses can produce ferocious storms, deadly powerful forces of nature from the same air that only moments before was a gentle breeze or a cool breath of fresh air.

Colliding energies, forceful actions and equally powerful reactions, can become a swirling, powerful, sucking vortex of the power of circular revolution, dragging you into a whirlpool of eddying unending emotional turmoil.

Well, suffice it to say that when your husband’s hostile attitude meets your cold front. . . there is potential for some stormy weather! And you can electrify the situation with your thunderous reaction, or you can dissipate with a gentle demeanor.

So, when he’s out of sorts, or angry with his circumstances, or frustrated with his job, or feels like he can’t control all of the variables that affect him. . . just react with patience and love. Let him know that you are a safe place for him to come. . . when he’s ready. Give him a smile, and at least be the one place that is soft and comforting and welcoming. Bring him good and not harm.

The wind goeth toward the south, and turneth about unto the north; it whirleth about continually, and the wind returneth again according to his circuits. All the rivers run into the sea; yet the sea is not full; unto the place from whence the rivers come, thither they return again. Eccl 1:6-7

Let the wind calmly continue its cycle. Don’t get in the path of a man-made tornado. The winds will blow and the waters will rise, but peace be still. . .

And be sure to pray for our neighbors in Joplin, recovering from the worst tornado to ever rip through Missouri, and so far the eighth worst in U.S. history. Those who just lost homes, businesses and possessions count themselves very blessed, and fortunate to have learned the invaluable lesson that those things do not matter.

Rainbow in the sky after the Joplin tornado

The true miracle of this tornado, and the redemptive work of restoration begins for them in realizing that they are surrounded by the truly valuable things like faith, family, friends who care, and a community who will be there to help them rebuild. And strangely, in troubled times, those intangible treasures are enough to live on. . .and smile about. . . and thrive on. . . and a sure foundation on which to rebuild from the rubble.

Redemption is like that. The rainbow picture, used by permission of Pure Image Photography, was taken just after the Joplin tornado, before we even knew of the damage. I had never seen a rainbow like that — not only a double rainbow, but the main rainbow was double reversed (red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet, violet, indigo, blue, green, yellow, orange, red).  I hope those dazed by the destruction of the tornado, as they looked around at the devastation, looked up to see God’s message of hope through tears to them.

And God said, This is the token of the covenant which I make between me and you and every living creature that is with you, for perpetual generations: I do set my bow in the cloud, and it shall be for a token of a covenant between me and the earth. Genesis 9:12:13


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